Talking about parenting: If you can’t say something nice…

Published 10:00 am Friday, May 3, 2019

Chris Kovatch

I generally try to keep out of conversations on social media. I prefer to use it as a medium to connect and develop friendships that might not normally exist.

I do find that people are much more likely to say things from behind a keyboard that they wouldn’t say in person which definitely saddens me.

It seems like the days of manners and class have been left behind.

The old adage that “if you can’t say something nice; then don’t say anything at all” is something I try my best to live by. I don’t’ always succeed, but I continue to try.

Occasionally, however, I will jump into the fray with the intent on sharing more facts and less opinion.

I don’t believe that everyone that stirs the pot on social media is doing so intentionally.

I think that they view it as an outlet to vent, release frustration, or garner affirmation for their views. The problem is that while it is cathartic for them, it can have a far-reaching impact that they probably never even considered.

At the other end of that post, there are people and organizations that can be adversely affected.

Many times alternate methods can be used to address concerns in more appropriate environments. I truly believe that every other avenue should be exhausted when trying to deal with a problem before social media comes into play.

I do understand emotions come into play.

My wife often jokes that arguing is a hobby for me.

Many times I have typed out a message or a post only to delete it before I hit send or post.

I see that when it comes to protecting my kids I tend to think even less. I go from zero to 60 in the blink of an eye.

While I hope it shows them how much I truly care for them, I often think back and contemplate what kind of example I set for them. Being passionate about something is one thing. How you express that is an entirely different story.

As I have taken a long and often winding road through my article this week, my advice for my children is this: Think before you speak; realize words can’t be taken back; and works towards acknowledging when you mess up.

That last one is the most difficult for me. Ask my kids…they’ll confirm it.