orangeleader.com (Orange, Texas)

September 29, 2012

LOVE & MARRIAGE

DAVID BERKHEIMER
The Orange Leader

ORANGE — We all enter marriage excited about the future. We are sure with a little help from us our partner will become almost perfect. Up until then the joy of “falling in love” has enabled us to overlook all kinds of imperfections. In fact, some through the eyes of love seemed like wonderful character traits. Then we said “I do” and that’s when love either begins or starts to die.

I’ve heard it said “Love is the most powerful weapon there is.” 

It didn’t take me long to agree, for God who is the Creator of all, who is all powerful, and all wise, uses the power of love to woo us as well as change us.

Paul writes on love in I Corinthians 13:4-7 (TLT), “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Love in marriage means putting up with one another’s differences without criticizing. It even means celebrating those differences. It means forgiving quickly and having the self-control to never bring it back up. (God does that to us every day.) It means giving one another the chance to fail without saying, “I told you so.” 

It means taking your partner in your arms when they are hurting and never having to say a word. Love means a great amount of sacrifice. I’ve never seen a happy couple when sacrifices were not made by each person. There is something about sacrifice that makes the giver happy, perhaps because they have invested real love into someone else.

Love in marriage knows when to stop talking and at other times when to keep talking. It means excitement and adventure. Even God shows His enjoyment in pursuing us all the way to Calvary and beyond. Love finds its greatest happiness in making another happy. There is no situation too difficult for love to conquer. 

Love in marriage means divorce is never an option.