orangeleader.com (Orange, Texas)

May 11, 2013

Mother's Day Survival Kit for Befuddled Dads

John Warren
The Orange Leader

ORANGE — First, my disclaimer, I am not a dad and second I have only been married two years.  So I do not claim to be an expert on the subject of buying gifts for moms or wives.  But I am a quick study.  

First, never and I mean never, give her anything that plugs in (unless it is a Chevy Volt).  Never give her anything shiny, especially if it sits on the kitchen counter or in the closet. The only acceptable shiny things must fit around her wrist, neck, on her finger or ears.  Never give her anything that she can use in her job, even if she loves shoes and her e-mail address consists of the word "shoe".  She will not like the cute tape dispenser that looks like a high heel shoe even if it goes with the post-it note holder and your anniversary year is paper.  That mistake resulted in me going to the store and buying something acceptably shiny.  

I think the real question is, “how do you love and cherish her?” That is a very personal thing that takes being observant.  If you are artistic in any way, you don't even have to be good at it, you and the children can make something.  I took the lyrics from the song I sang to her during our wedding and made a wall hanging and she loves it.  

You have to know her love language.  We all have those certain things that let’s us know that special person loves us, if I may recommend a book, The Five Love Languages, How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman.  During a long road trip my wife read it to me.  That was a good way to read it since neither one of us could jump out of the moving car when we heard something that we needed to take into consideration.  

It really isn’t the big things that count.  It is the little things that add up each day that say, you are valued, and cherished.  One way to do that Chapman says is to take the time each day to share three things that happened to you that day and how you feel about them.  We have no children but I do know that she expects a card from our dog, Astro.  I wonder what kind of gift Astro would give her mother?